Oct 29 2010

A note of gratitude to my online friends

Posted by: Stacey at 1:08 am
In: Life

kittensThe Internet is a wonderful thing. Yes, it can be addicting – & destructive for some, but used right, it’s a wonderful tool for the communication of info, & for making friends that you otherwise likely would have never gotten to know w/out the Goracle’s “invention.” 😉 Can’t tell you all the wonderful ppl I have become friends w/ as a result of my 10 or so years of being online. My best friend is a gal who I got to know, in concert with other gals, as a result of a *soap opera forum.* We all went to some soap events in the early 2000s, had a blast, & the rest is history. She lives in Florida, but we are still very close.

We enrich our lives by not only befriending others but also from being befriended by those who share similar interests, values, etc. – whether the friend is an online friend or offline friend. Not only that, but it’s a big bonus when you have friends who make you want to be a better person, who bring out the best in you, & who make you think. It’s also a special treat when they let you know in some small way that you’ve made a positive impact in their life. What a *great* feeling that is!

Besides, there are few other places you could go where people are actually ok with the fact that you love to ramble on and on at length about this or that topic – and who don’t get bored before you’re done. 😉

Sure, sometimes it’s revealed online in one way or another that people you know online are not who they have made themselves out to be, but for the most part my experiences have been positive, and I suspect that is true for most people. As you do offline, you take chances online when you become friends with someone. The downside to the I’net is that people can (and will) paint exaggerated, even false, images of who they want you to think they are, but the longer you’ve been online the easier it is to spot fraudsters a mile away.

If there was a way to embrace all of my online friends at the same time, I would – but there’s not, so this is my way of doing so … and saying thanks. May the good times and lively, spirited conversations roll!

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Oct 10 2010

Sunday Observations from Sistah

Posted by: Stacey at 11:02 am
In: Faith

ReflectionsWas just reflecting this morning on how, in certain situations, it is difficult to rest in the knowledge that God is in control and that He has a plan. I have a couple of family members who are in situations in which other family members and I can do very little to help outside of just being there to provide a shoulder to lean on, and to give encouragement and support to. You want to think that giving that shoulder and encouragement is enough, but deep down you agonize to try and figure out ways you can help them through their situations so their lives can get back to normal, but the agonizing is fruitless because usually you come up empty.

It is at this point it usually kicks in in living color that God is in control and that He has a plan for everyone, and the fact that the situations in question are beyond your control should not cause you to doubt yourself when it comes to trying to help others work through their struggles and difficulties. He knows. He is working. He’s got it covered. Once that fact washes over you anew, you can rest a little easier even though the worry is still there. This is true not just when you are worried about what’s going on in the lives of family members but also when dealing with the personal day to day struggles that come with life.

For the family members involved here, their faith remains strong in spite of the obstacles they face, and I take great inspiration from that. I’ve heard it said before that the true measure of a person’s character is not how they conduct themselves when everything is going well in their lives, but when it is not. That the faith of these family members is unshaken in spite of the uphill climbs they face is a testament to how they’ve grown & matured in their relationships with God, and certainly inspires me in my walk with God as well.

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Oct 08 2010

To all my fellow geeks: Don’t let your old insecurities trip you up

Posted by: Stacey at 11:10 pm
In: Life

If you’re like me, during your childhood, teenage and college years, you were not the most popular person in school. Not even close. You never got to hang around with the so-called “A-list” crowd because they thought they were “too good” for you. You were socially awkward, not particularly attractive, had zero fashion sense, and had the grace of a bunny rabbit on an acid trip. Your seating preference in the classroom was in the very back where you could hide from not just the teachers but students, too, and on the bus to and from school it wasn’t uncommon for you to be the laughing stock of the moment with an unforgiving group of “A-listers.”

Yes, my fellow geeks, I know you understand. Because you remember. I remember.

Those painful days were like perpetual hell for many of us – seemed like they would never end. But they did, because after college comes real life where even “the beautiful people” have trouble surviving if they don’t have the necessary skills to make a name for themselves in this world. After college, life becomes more about what you know and who you know rather than how you look. That’s where we geeks had & have the distinct advantage over the “cool kids.” 😀

But just for good measure – and because we didn’t want to have to relive memories of the past everytime we looked in a mirror – some/many of us started taking better care of our appearance. Some started doing so during college, some started after. The goal was to be the “total package”: Brains and looks. Or, at the very least, have a respectable appearance to go alongside your inner geek. For me, my goal was to stop being a fashion nightmare, which I think (hope!) worked. 🙂 From there, life took us in different directions, with some of us finding both professional and personal happiness, while others were still “in search” of themselves and what they ultimately wanted to do in life. Personally speaking, it wasn’t until I was in my early 30s that I felt I had any degree of “got it together” going on. I obtained a job I liked where people respected me and valued my input, I eventually bought my first house, and I finally started to put my novice writing skills to work by starting a political blog in 2003, which grew quickly into my “baby.” Your confidence typically gets stronger as your grow and mature, almost to the point that you forget about what you went through as a geek in high school and college.

But every once in a blue moon, something happens, something is said or done, that causes those memories to flood back and briefly turn you back into that insecure, gawky, trip-over-your-own-feet teenager again. And if you’re not careful, it won’t just “briefly” take you back to that point but you will dwell on it to the point that it’s hard to get out of the funk. I sorta kinda had something like this happen to me a couple of weeks ago. Was having the kind of morning where I felt like everything I said or did was wrong. Also was dealing with a colleague who I felt had a bit of a superiority complex, which didn’t help matters. In my mind, I was once again that insignificant teenager whose opinion her classmates didn’t care about, whose every attempt at a step forward was a misstep with a trip landing. I could have spent the whole day dwelling on bad memories, but I didn’t want to. This marvelous daily devotional at the Heart to Heart with Holley website helped get me back on track. That and an imaginary kick to my backside!

It would have been so easy to wallow in self-pity – and believe me, I can throw one heck of a Pity Party when I want to 😉 – but I didn’t. I read that devo, kicked myself, looked outside to see the clouds and some rare (for this week, anyway) sunshine, and thought, “It’s going to be ok. God loves me. I have a family who loves me just the way I am, and friends who care. I’ve come a long way, and made great strides in my life.”

I may still be a geek at heart (and there is NOTHING wrong with that – believe me, I totally embrace my Geekhood 😀 ) but I do not want back in my life the feelings of inadequacy that go along with that time in my life. None of us do. Such feelings can be self-destructive if you let them. So when you find yourself in a similar situation where you’re having a bad time and you start thinking of yourself as a nobody, just remember that a whole lot of people know differently. Also, think about how far you’ve come from the days when you thought the torment from classmates would never end. You’re an adult. You have a career. You have a life. So many people love you and care about you and respect you. God loves you. Don’t let a minor setback like a flashback to “the geek days” be the catalyst for a crappy day. Hold your head high and brush off the temporary setback like it’s an insignificant piece of lint on your shirt.

Better now. 🙂


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Sep 30 2010

Happiness really is …

Posted by: Stacey at 8:53 pm
In: Life

Unlike my previous “happiness is” post, in which I was being quite sarcastic, this one is for real. 🙂 In no particular order, happiness to me is:

… sipping on a cool glass of lemonade while sitting on your porch on a breezy summer night.
… watching the sun break through the clouds.
… finding that perfect shell on the beach on a crisp fall morning while getting sand in between your toes.
… watching the leaves change in the fall, especially when some of the best fall foliage is in your neighborhood.
… hearing your mother call you “sweet pea” or “pumpkin.”
… remembering when grandma taught me how to cross stitch.
… Fridays.
… knowing God loves you.
… learning a new tidbit about history for the first time.
… the couch. The ceiling fan on low. A comfy blanket.
… cold fried chicken.
… the love and care of family and friends.
… dancing in the kitchen where no one can see you.
… singing in the shower where no one can hear you.
… good hair days.
… Icees & smoothies of all flavors.
… evening strolls.
… butterflies in your tummy at the thought of trying something new, exciting, challenging.

I could go on and on. 🙂

Feel free to add to the list!

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Aug 12 2010

My “sinful” little cosmetics kit

Posted by: Stacey at 12:13 am
In: Life,Looks

Earlier today, as a free gift w/ purchase, I got myself a fancy, dancy make-up kit from Ulta that had some nice “summer colors” in it. As you can see from the pic, it came with a cute little bag and the colors are nice and ‘warm’ for this time of the year.

Cosmetic kit

A kit for girly girls who love playing in make-up.

Anyway, so I open it up this evening and the names of the various cosmetics cracked me up. Among other things, here were some of the contents:

— A cheek blush named “Cheek Exposed”

— An eyeshadow quad named “Good Girl”

— A redder than red lipstick named “Moroccan Red” (which is most definitely NOT my color)

— Nailpolish named “Jaded”

Needless to say, I felt quite sinfully exotic after checking out the contents! LOL. Just one thing, though: A “Good Girl” would never, ever have her “Cheek Exposed” to the world … 😉

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Jun 30 2010

Redemption

Posted by: Stacey at 10:55 pm
In: Life

Almost four years ago, something horrible happened.

Today, I had the chance to redeem myself. A little. In a nutshell, I helped rescue a kitty from a semi-busy street. The kitty was probably no more than 3 months old, and starving. The poor thing was so scared and so thin. I held it and I could feel the little bones. My heart just broke. Fortunately, a car stopped and a woman with two kids got out and asked what was going on and when she saw the baby kitty, one of the first things she said was (paraphrasing): “we’ll take it home. I’ve got some cat food at the house.” I sure hope that cute little bag of bones was well fed today and is sleeping comfortably tonight and gets the care it needs. Poor thing had a little scratch on its mouth – a woman who lives across the street from the building I found the cat at (the cat was in front of the building on the edge of the street, then briefly IN the street … at one point under my car when my coaxing didn’t work as planned!) says she thinks it was the kitty’s momma who popped it in the mouth.

All I can picture in my mind right now is a tiny little “meow” coming from its itty bitty mouth and how the lil thing shrinked back from me when it thought I was getting too close/loud (I was clapping my hands and talking excitedly to try and get it to get back from the street). My cat was a frightened stray, too, when she came to me and my family but we took care of her, and still do to this day – 10 years later. And she takes care of us, too.

Stay warm, dry, and safe, little kitty. And God bless ya.

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Jun 27 2010

Preparing for the premiere of Eclipse

Posted by: Stacey at 7:10 pm
In: Movies

I haven’t been this excited about a movie premiere since, well, New Moon came out. 😉 A sneak peek clip of Eclipse:

Still haven’t read the whole Twilight series (have just read Twilight), even though I have all four books in hardback in a special hardback case. 😉 I’ll get around to it. It’s just that my stack of “books to read” is so high …

Looking to get a daily quick fix before the official June 30 release date? Go here.

Oh, and BTW, some people are under the impression that it’s just teenage girls who love this series. I can assure you it’s not just them. My sisters are older than I am, and they love it. I have numerous friends who dig it. Was reading some Tweets just a few days ago from fellow Tweeps who like it. A lot of women just enjoy the love story, a story about a man who will go through whatever it takes to make sure the woman he loves is always safe and happy, and the woman who loves him and would do anything for him in spite of his one glaring fault: that he’s a vampire, but didn’t choose to be.

I’ll be seeing it at least twice – once with a friend as part of her birthday celebration, and the other time with my sisters. Both times this weekend. 😀

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May 02 2010

Thank you, God

Posted by: Stacey at 10:58 pm
In: Faith,Life

I’ve hit a bit of a rough patch over the last few of weeks. I’ve not felt that I should burden family and friends with my troubles outside of talking to a couple of them about the basics, but I have prayed about my issues a lot, and have thanked God that even in my darkest hours He never sees me as weak or as a failure. What a comfort that in our hours of need – or even when believers think they’ve got everything covered and that they don’t need Him – His presence remains constant.

There was a time in my life when I didn’t turn to God often, preferring instead to try and resolve things in ways that didn’t include relying on my faith; now, I can’t imagine not praying to Him about the good times and the bad. He is always there for both, and wants to hear about both.

Thank you, God.


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Mar 17 2010

Legends

Posted by: Stacey at 8:43 pm
In: Music

When it’s time to relax, one duo comes to mind

*Taps foot softly*

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Mar 17 2010

Some things are just not cute

Posted by: Stacey at 8:40 pm
In: Ever Wonder Why,Humor,Life

In no particular order of importance:

– Going grocery shopping in too-tight pants complete with thigh-high black vinyl boots with 4-inch heels. Really. Are you shopping for bread and milk, or something else?

– Women who don’t even come close to having the abs for it wearing half shirts and low-rider jeans when they shouldn’t (like out in public). I really don’t need to explain why this isn’t cute.

– Putting flame stripes down the side of your Dodge Aries. Need I say more?

– Revving your engine at the red light. It’s esp. not cute if you have a sports car. Everyone knows your car has power, just as everyone knows that a man with muscles has strength. When you try to draw attention to either, it makes a person think that the old saying about how a souped up sports car or a man who obviously works out a lot is that man’s way of covering up other, um, ‘shortcomings’ just might be true …

– By the same token, pulling your jacked up truck with the ten foot high tires up right next to a car at a red light, ignoring the thick white line for your turn lane that you are supposed to wait behind. I know the trick is to be able to see in someone else’s car – particularly if it’s a female’s car – but c’mon: Have you not ever seen a woman in a v-neck and/or skirt before? 😡

– Talking on your cell phone in a movie theater. Doesn’t matter whether it’s during the previews or after. Can you not turn off your cell phone for two hours? Are you really that important?

– Double parking, effectively taking up two spaces – on purpose. Park out a ways where there are less cars instead if you’re worried about your car getting dinged.

– Having a car/vanload full of kids and speeding like you’re in the Indy 500. Whatever you are racing towards, it will wait.

– Repeatedly cursing in front of others during the course of a single conversation, esp. if the “others” include a woman. That goes double for using inappropriate crude terminology in mixed company. I’m old fashioned about this, I know. I just don’t dig it.

– Chewing your gum with your mouth open. Annoying!

Feel free to add to the list! I may do so myself.


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