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Feb 22 2017

Retired WNBA Player: Other Players Bullied Me Because I Was Straight

Posted by: Stacey at 8:54 am
In: Culture,Feminism,LGBT,Sports
Candice Wiggins

‘It wasn’t like my dreams came true in the WNBA. It was quite the opposite.’ – Candice Wiggins

Retired WNBA star Candice Wiggins had a lot to say in a recent interview about what what she describes as a “harmful” bullying culture within the struggling league:

“Me being heterosexual and straight, and being vocal in my identity as a straight woman was huge,” Wiggins said. “I would say 98 percent of the women in the WNBA are gay women. It was a conformist type of place. There was a whole different set of rules they (the other players) could apply.

“There was a lot of jealousy and competition, and we’re all fighting for crumbs,” Wiggins said. “The way I looked, the way I played – those things contributed to the tension.

“People were deliberately trying to hurt me all of the time. I had never been called the B-word so many times in my life than I was in my rookie season. I’d never been thrown to the ground so much. The message was: ‘We want you to know we don’t like you.’”

Wiggins is working on a book tentatively titled “The WNBA Diaries” about her experiences in the league, so that should be kept in mind while reading the interview.

That being said, one can deduce that what she’s asserting is entirely possible, especially if her 98% guesstimate is anywhere close to accurate. In any environment where an overwhelming majority of a group is a particular type (white, or men, or hetero, etc), if you are not part of that majority, you are probably going to get treated differently because it’s human nature to treat people who aren’t like you in a different way.

But is it a “bad” kind of “differently”?  This is anecdotal, of course, but I’ve worked in offices where the vast majority of my colleagues were men, and I was treated with a respect and courtesy that many of the men working there did not give each other.  I’ve also worked in offices where the vast majority of my co-workers were women, and it was cut-throat, vicious, and the backstabbing was routine – against each other, but not the men.

There are a lot of unique scenarios out there where “differently” does not always equal “bad” but other situations where it very clearly is.

Wiggins’ situation falls into the latter category, if what she’s saying is true.   We live in a society where the prevailing view is that it’s men who are holding us back, but there is not a woman in the workforce today who hasn’t been kicked in the tush by another woman who either cruelly used her female co-workers to get ahead, bullied female workers because she was in a position of power and authority, or who otherwise treated her female co-workers horribly simply because she was jealous of other women.

In short, women can be their own worst enemies – even worse sometimes than the men who are supposedly holding them back from greater things. And the more authority she gets, the worse off it can be.

Can you imagine a toxic atmosphere where most of the players you’re up against, or play alongside, are different than you and that “culture” is the norm and you are treated differently – rudely – because you don’t fit into the culture?  Aren’t projecting the right “image” your collective group thinks you should be?

Hetero women in the workforce can be awful enough towards each other. But in an environment where you are conditioned to look, act, and compete like an [aggressive] man, as Wiggins suggests in her interview, can make it unbearable.

I look forward to Wiggins’ upcoming book.

Via Memeorandum

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Dec 28 2009

The decision to bench Peyton Manning: Right or wrong?

Posted by: Stacey at 7:57 pm
In: Sports

In light of Colts coach Jim Caldwell’s decision to bench Peyton Manning and a few other key starters in the third quarter of yesterday’s Jets/Colts game, a decision that many would argue directly led to the Colts’ first loss of the season, sports pundits and average Joe sports fans are debating as to whether or not the decision was the right one or wrong one to make. I can see both sides of the argument; on one hand, you’ve already locked in home field advantage for the playoffs and you want to protect your star starters from injury in the last couple of games of the regular season, but on the other hand, you are desirous of maintaining your undefeated season all the way until the end. I’d give the edge to the playoffs argument, as freak accidents happen all the time in the NFL – and the last thing you want to happen is to have any of your starters injured seriously enough that they can’t join the team on the field for the playoffs.

What do you think?

While everyone is pondering the answer to that question, I think a look at how to safely lift heavy dumbbells is important. And who better to demonstrate that than Peyton Manning himself?

😀

And while on the topic of football, there’s been a lot of talk around here that Panthers Coach John Fox and GM Marty Hurney would be asked to leave the building – for good – after this season is over, but the Charlotte Observer is reporting that the two will be offered the “opportunity to return” next season. Should the two decide to stay on (and I suspect they will), the end of next season will be another matter entirely:

Fox, whose contract will expire after the 2010 season, will not be offered an extension, however. Sources say he is scheduled to make about $6 million next season.

The return of the general manager and coaches could be a reward for upset victories the last two Sundays of Minnesota and the New York Giants.

Another factor, however, could be a potential lockout after the 2010 season. Contract negotiations between owners and players is expected to be bitter. If the owners lock the players out, teams might reduce expenses to prepare for the economic fallout.

Stay tuned …

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