Aug 30 2017

That Sliver Of Sunlight

Posted by: Stacey at 11:10 am
In: Life,Muffie T.,Optimism
Muffie T. - 7/18/16
Muffie T. – 7/18/16

Watching as the sun began to peek around earlier today from behind the clouds, I felt my “meh” morning start to brighten, and not just literally. There’s something to be said for how sunlight can impact your disposition. Each day the sun battles the clouds – and wins – usually ends up being a better day for a lot of us.

This is something I think animals know well. My sweet Muffie cat, who we lost last October after 17 wonderful years, always managed to find the slivers of sunlight in the house that had filtered in through a window of the glass door. Even if it was just a small circle. Her fur would be shiny, warm, smooth, and soft to the touch when I’d pet her while she was basking in one. Her warmth – and the sunshine itself – gave me such a sense of contentment and peace in a world that often seemed (and still does seem) upside down.

When you’re in a dark place, always seek out those slivers of sunlight. Sometimes they’re not so easy to find, especially in a rainstorm. But eventually, after the storm passes, they’ll appear.

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Feb 25 2017

Weekend Recipe: Simple Strawberry Lemonade

Posted by: Stacey at 9:31 am
In: Food and Drinks,Recipes
Strawberry lemonade

Strawberry lemonade. Mmm.

Ingredients

1 cup sugar
1 cup water
1 ¼ cups fresh lemon juice (from about 6 lemons)
1 pint strawberries, hulled and sliced
24-28 oz fresh cold water
ice

Directions

Bring the sugar and water to a simmer in a small saucepot. Stir so that sugar melts completely then remove from the heat and let cool to room temperature.

Place the strawberries in a blender and process until smooth. Pour pureed strawberries in the sugar water and stir well. Add the lemon juice.

Combine the strawberry lemon syrup and the cold water in a large pitcher. Stir well and add lots of ice.

Serve lemonade with thin slices of lemons and strawberries.

Serves 6.

Recipe via food blogger Jenna Weber.

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Feb 22 2017

Retired WNBA Player: Other Players Bullied Me Because I Was Straight

Posted by: Stacey at 8:54 am
In: Culture,Feminism,LGBT,Sports
Candice Wiggins

‘It wasn’t like my dreams came true in the WNBA. It was quite the opposite.’ – Candice Wiggins

Retired WNBA star Candice Wiggins had a lot to say in a recent interview about what what she describes as a “harmful” bullying culture within the struggling league:

“Me being heterosexual and straight, and being vocal in my identity as a straight woman was huge,” Wiggins said. “I would say 98 percent of the women in the WNBA are gay women. It was a conformist type of place. There was a whole different set of rules they (the other players) could apply.

“There was a lot of jealousy and competition, and we’re all fighting for crumbs,” Wiggins said. “The way I looked, the way I played – those things contributed to the tension.

“People were deliberately trying to hurt me all of the time. I had never been called the B-word so many times in my life than I was in my rookie season. I’d never been thrown to the ground so much. The message was: ‘We want you to know we don’t like you.’”

Wiggins is working on a book tentatively titled “The WNBA Diaries” about her experiences in the league, so that should be kept in mind while reading the interview.

That being said, one can deduce that what she’s asserting is entirely possible, especially if her 98% guesstimate is anywhere close to accurate. In any environment where an overwhelming majority of a group is a particular type (white, or men, or hetero, etc), if you are not part of that majority, you are probably going to get treated differently because it’s human nature to treat people who aren’t like you in a different way.

But is it a “bad” kind of “differently”?  This is anecdotal, of course, but I’ve worked in offices where the vast majority of my colleagues were men, and I was treated with a respect and courtesy that many of the men working there did not give each other.  I’ve also worked in offices where the vast majority of my co-workers were women, and it was cut-throat, vicious, and the backstabbing was routine – against each other, but not the men.

There are a lot of unique scenarios out there where “differently” does not always equal “bad” but other situations where it very clearly is.

Wiggins’ situation falls into the latter category, if what she’s saying is true.   We live in a society where the prevailing view is that it’s men who are holding us back, but there is not a woman in the workforce today who hasn’t been kicked in the tush by another woman who either cruelly used her female co-workers to get ahead, bullied female workers because she was in a position of power and authority, or who otherwise treated her female co-workers horribly simply because she was jealous of other women.

In short, women can be their own worst enemies – even worse sometimes than the men who are supposedly holding them back from greater things. And the more authority she gets, the worse off it can be.

Can you imagine a toxic atmosphere where most of the players you’re up against, or play alongside, are different than you and that “culture” is the norm and you are treated differently – rudely – because you don’t fit into the culture?  Aren’t projecting the right “image” your collective group thinks you should be?

Hetero women in the workforce can be awful enough towards each other. But in an environment where you are conditioned to look, act, and compete like an [aggressive] man, as Wiggins suggests in her interview, can make it unbearable.

I look forward to Wiggins’ upcoming book.

Via Memeorandum

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Feb 21 2017

Be A More Engaging, Persuasive Speaker By Listening First

Posted by: Stacey at 7:32 pm
In: Helpful Tips,Life

Found this great pin on Pinterest this past weekend and wanted to share.

During my time as a political commentator, one thing I have observed often is that there are a lot of people you meet who hear you, but who don’t listen to you.  I have fallen into these patterns, too, on and off – usually without realizing it:  You nod, smile, tilt your head while someone is speaking but you don’t really listen to them.  I think the art of listening is close to being a lost one because most people have the mindset that they know it all already – and that any contrary or different opinion or way of doing things is not worth devoting any significant amount of time to hearing out because your way is “the better way.”

Not only that, but so many of us seem to be so preoccupied with worry about what’s just around the corner that we fail to pay attention to what – and who – we have in front of us and what they’re doing or saying. I would bet almost everyone who reads this post has been around people who they were sure weren’t really paying close attention to was being said in the course of a conversation. So why would we want to treat someone else like that when we know what it feels like to be given the obligatory nod and wink?

Next time someone is talking to you, try to clear your thoughts – definitely put down your cell phone or tablet – and really listen to them, and converse with them in an engaging way … especially if you find them interesting and want to gain their friendship. Or, if for no other reason, to thoroughly understand their position in order to strengthen your counterarguments.

The tips below should give you a good head start.

Learn to communicate better.

Learn to communicate better.

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Feb 20 2017

Zima Set To Make A Comeback?

Posted by: Stacey at 4:29 pm
In: Food and Drinks

Remember Zima, y’all?

Beer Business Daily on Thursday reported that the brand is already in distributor warehouses and will “allegedly be offered for a limited time only.” A MillerCoors spokesman told Ad Age that “more news [is] coming soon” and that “if you’re one of the zillion fans who have missed Zima, the answer should be clear.”

Originally owned by Coors, the malt beverage surged out of the gate in the early 1990s, before falling on hard times. It was eventually discontinued in the U.S. several years ago, but is still sold in Japan.

Confession time: I used to drink Zima “back in the day” – usually with a spritz of raspberry to make it taste better.   Wasn’t too bad after that. 😉

Zima!

Zima!

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Feb 09 2017

Hello World!

Posted by: Stacey at 8:00 pm
In: Blogging

Testing 1, 2 … 🙂

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May 30 2014

Cliché alert: Change starts with YOU

Posted by: Stacey at 12:05 pm
In: Faith,Inspiration,Life

change

Right, I get it – clichés are, you know, so cliché, but I can’t seem to stop myself from using them from time to time, and events in my life over the past few months have solidified the old one about change starting with you.

Think about it. It really well and truly does, and when you firmly – and I do mean grab it and hold tight with both hands – realize that if you want your life to change for the better that it all starts with YOUR actions, YOUR words, understanding that you are in the driver’s seat (with God as your co-pilot, of course!) navigating your course – well, it’s a powerful feeling. You – controlling your own destiny. All it takes is you, putting one foot in front of the order, trying and sometimes succeeding (and sometimes failing) – and disabling the reverse gear permanently.

I live a simple life. Always have. But simple doesn’t have to be routine – and there comes a point when you come to the conclusion that your routine simply isn’t enough for you anymore. I’ve reached that point. YOLO and all that. My perspective on the present and the future has changed dramatically in recent weeks. Really looking forward to grabbing the bull by the horns in the coming weeks and months and exploring avenues I put off traveling on for years for one reason or the other. It starts now.


(Video link)

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Jul 16 2013

Spiritual faith and the passionate woman

Posted by: Stacey at 11:06 pm
In: Faith,Writing

Lady character in my first real attempt at a spiritual book: a shy woman of strong faith who gets mixed up with the wrong guy at the right time. Just so happens the guy is a non-believer who wears it on his sleeve – to the point of being obnoxious about it, but oddly finds that he enjoys being around the irritating Ms. Wholesome. Like many women, the main female character eventually comes to see Mr. Wrong’s non-belief as a worthy challenge .. while she’s falling for him, of course.

Question is: Will he, in turn, fall for her? 😉 Many, many, many pitfalls along the way …


Video Link

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Jan 23 2013

The perfect “vacation office” for those who simply *must* work when they shouldn’t be

Posted by: Stacey at 9:28 pm
In: Life,Travel,Writing

On vacations, you’re supposed to COMPLETELY get away and stop thinking about work stuff, but if you simply MUST check in at the office, I highly recommend setting up a little something like this:

Beach Office

Only thing missing is the cabana dude. ; )

Am I right or what?

And this post would not be complete without an obligatory beach sound effects video. Play the video, look at the above picture, and dream. 🙂

Come to think of it, as a writer that would be the ideal scene TO work, vacation or not…

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Jul 10 2012

The ideal fashion motto (according to yours truly)

Posted by: Stacey at 9:05 pm
In: Fashion,Girlie Girl

This x1000!

Women of the world

Go, girl!

And, no, this doesn’t mean dressing like an old-fashioned schoolmarm. You can look incredible, sexy, classy … all at the same time. As the saying goes: “Respect yoself!” 😀

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